You get confident when you get skill.
Anger and fear are strong emotions. When your mind experiences emotions the body responds by producing chemicals that cause blood changes, heart rate changes, and others. These cause your breathing to become shallow and the blood to leave the extremities ( arms and legs). There can in extreme instances loss of blood to the brain.
You can see that keeping emotions under control can be an advantage. Getting pumped with the right level of emotion can actually be a good thing, too much and it can turn you into a dumb zombie flailing about senselessly. When I was sparing regularly I used to try to get my opponent really mad. I spar best when in a good mood. I enjoy sparing.
Never fight without being attacked. Always respect your opponent. Yes it is OK to get them angry just don't be a jerk. Build self confidence. Be humble enough to learn. Never focus on the possible outcome. Never be disappointed with losing. Consider a loss a learning exercise and grow stringer smarter.
Samuraiw.... and Frank the Tank are some of the best on this sight so take their advice as sound. They have decades of experience as well.
Its not bad to get angry or mad but the other part is to control that emotion and channel it in a positive way then rather than just blindly acting and lashing out. That is where people and sometimes even inexperienced fighters sometimes go wrong is they let emotions like that overtake them. Then they lose their focus and ability to think, approach, and execute things better from a technical standpoint and bringing about the physical breakdown and destruction of their adversary and often instead just blindly lash out. While that will work sometimes people with good training and experience know and realize when the situation calls for something else. They instead will temper their strategy and actions rather than blindly lashing out, over exposing themselves to being countered and/or burning up and wasting all their energy and adrenalin needlessly.
At other times inexperienced people will give into their adrenalin rush and be overtaken by that. Here again you want to learn and instead be able to harness and use that the best way possible which means thinking and considering things along some lines. This is also one of the things that separates people with good training and experience is their ability to control this while also being able to think more quickly usually, considering all the factors in a situation. This last thing is one of the reasons why I have usually been able to gain the advantage over someone is my ability to think as well as then react more quickly.
I see this in sparring a lot with fledgling fighters also a fair amount sometimes also. They are still thinking about something a fraction of a second or two longer oftentimes. That can be too long in a lot of cases and sometimes I have to work with them on speeding their thinking and decision making up a little. That is accomplished with additional training and experience and them learning better some of the little things in fighting that are not obvious to non fighters. A good example is throwing a left hook to the body. You don't even have to see that it hits your opponent's arm or elbow-you can tell just by the feel that it did and if so then you want to double up and throw another one higher, head level immediately so that you catch your opponent with that arm, hand, and elbow still down.
That is a good example and an obvious one that even non fighters or people without experience can see and understand more easily. The rest is much harder to and what I am saying here but is something that people with a background and experience in fighting or dealing with people on a confrontational and maybe physical level learn and understand as well as harness and use when caught in a situation.
The best advice I can give you is to acknowledge and recognize that you are angry and have this adrenaline rush but yet remove yourself from brash actions without first thinking. That and learning to then think and consider all the factors at hand quickly is what you want to develop. Some of those factors can include but should not just be limited to the size and reach of your opponent; what is the distance between you; what surface are you and they on; do they have a weapon or something close by that they can use as a weapon; how are they currently standing and how is their weight and balance distributed; are there any obvious openings for you to take immediate advantage of; is there likely to be outside interference from others or are there friends of theirs present and where are they located at in relation to you and your adversary? These are just some of the things that come into consideration and need to be determined in just fractions of a second and there could be more. None of that takes place though if a person just blindly lashes out and that can lead to bad or serious consequences.
By training. Train with people better than you, bigger than you, smaller than you. Get the fear of being hit out of your head and train. Train with someone that treats the art as a way of life and try to do the same. Part is a state of mind as well as what you learned. Ideally Your reactions should be natural without thought, just like walking. Or, if you drive a stick, at first you had to really concentrate and work at shifting properly especially on hills from a stop. Eventually you do all of that without thought while talking to someone, drinking a big gulp and shaving. With practice and self confidence you lose the fear. Don't think about the outcome, it is what it is, don't think what if or if he does this I do..., that messes you up and you lose opportunity. It is not something you get in a weekend.
What Frank says is completely true. You must have a high level of skills. That's not just for controlling the temper of anger but it also makes you more calm. Not much people can restrain their inner anger, try working on it. I will not show you how but I think everybody knows how.
Yes you can but it takes years of training. Show up for classes, practice, and learn. Confidence comes from what you know and what you're good at!
this is your character
not much to change
as u walk up and down the streets u will meet
characters of all kinds
just focus on the task at hand and have faith
the rest will fall into place
can I learn how to stay cool when I fight and not get nervous.
I want to know when you fight if you get mad in the fight how to control your temper and not go like a maniac,I know it's not good to get mad,why?
