Check out the various training centers in your area and find out which one you feel is best suited to what you are looking for. But, based on the stipulations you have placed on your training requirements it is not likely you will find a quality center that fits your needs. My recommendation to you is to research and find the most reputable training center that teaches competitive MMA, and then go in and DO WHAT YOU ARE TOLD. If you can accomplish doing what you are instructed to do, because they know more about what they are teaching than you know about what you want to learn, you have a decent chance of actually becoming reasonably trained to protect yourself.

Maybe you should try "Lua" .... whats that you say? you dont have that style where you live? then how are we suppose to tell you which style to learn when there are thousands of styles but probably only 3 or 4 good quality instructors teaching martial arts in your region?

Check your region, see what academies there are, see who has the best instructors, narrow down which style you would prefer, then do a few classes of the styles you like until you have decided upon the one that best suits you.

Why do people always put a bunch of stats and $hit when they ask this? And why do you think there is a tailor made martial arts for you.

No one cares what you want to train. If I suggest you a martial arts and it's not available in your area what then? What do you do then?

Look around a little, see what's available and go and try it out.

Ty-quan-do (however you spell it) is good with kicks but if you want more a mixture of soft and hard style do shotokan it's awesome

None. Your mind is too closed. Until you are open to new things, nothing is going to "suit" you.

I am Seventeen

5 foot 6

11 stone

not strong but not overly weak

not fast but not slow

i am not overly fond of punches

i like kicks and knee strikes

i prefer submissions to knock outs

i have a good endurance

i like to be on the offensive as opposed to defensive

i enjoy grapples

i want a martial art with a good level of contact sparring

im not too fond of the whole spiritual aspect of marital arts but can put up with/ embrace if required

i dont want a martial art that involves weapons