My dad texted her and told her that if she plays to win she wouldn't act the way she does. The very next day, I arrived at practice the very same time she did. I was screamed at for being late. After practice in front of the team, she said "don't bother showing up to varsity practice tomorrow."
Don't get me wrong, she's an amazing person off the court, but on it she's horrible. Everyone on my team was afraid to say anything because she can be vindictive, but I set up a meeting with the athletic directer. Is this smart to do?
Wow. There is so much wrong with what you posted.
First of all, you are acting like she should be very PC. I yell at my 7th grade girls all the time. They drooped their heads. I asked them, what, are you afraid I'm going to yell at you? Get over it! In truth, athletes, especially ones who want to be competitive need to have thick skins and be able to take what the coach tells them and apply it. Frankly, if I tell them 10x and they still don't do it, I yell! If it is common sense thing, like not being late or being where I tell them to be, I yell!
To be honest, yelling and not yelling, I am very mindful of it. Sometimes the girls need a kick in the pants and a good yell gets them going. There's no one-on-one. I don't have time for that. Sure I call them out, but guess what? It's a team thing and not an individual thing. You should be embarrassed that a coach corrects you in front of someone else on your team. I'm not going to pull a player aside each and every time, put my arm around her shoulder and tell her what she did wrong privately.
The second mistake: deal with her by yourself and as a team. Your Dad texting her is not good. As a coach, I know many other coaches that when their parents or players become a pain in the rear, they get less playing time and/or don't make the team the next year. The team is the most important thing and by having parents try to "correct" the coach, they are labeled and isolated. Why? Team cohesiveness. Your individual players must play as a team and a troublemaker makes for it hard to do that. The things is, even if you don't like her way of coaching, your issues are pretty much just that. You want to get her fired because you don't like her or her methods. Yeah, good luck with that.
If you want to be coddled, obviously you need to go somewhere else. This coach has expectations and knows the path she wants to take to get there. If you don't like her, don't play for her. Being on the team is not an entitlement.
Coaches at the HS/MS levels aren't fired -- these contracts are year-to-year and approved by the AD and Board of Education; the contract won't be renewed. If this drama is so public, the decision will be easy for those who oversee coaches in all the sports.
A coach never wants to hear from a parent, they want you to talk to them.
Talking to the A.D. is only going to make things worse, now this has become a conflict where she thinks you are trying to get her fired.
No, she's just trying to be tough. Coaches try to get respect by showing toughness. You just have to play your game and stay confident. As long as your playing, and it sounds like you play a lot, then you just have to play your best. Don't talk to the athletic director because they ARE NOT going to fire her. That will just make her dislike you and you probably won't be playing as much due to that reason.
